Death Over Dinner -

How we want to die – represents the most important and costly conversation America isn’t having. We have gathered dozens of medical and wellness leaders to cast an unflinching eye at end of life, and we have created an uplifting interactive adventure that transforms this seemingly difficult conversation into one of deep engagement, insight and empowerment. We invite you to gather friends and family and fill a table. Click Get Started to plan a test dinner. We call it a test dinner because trying out this process in no way commits you to follow through with an actual dinner. Learn More.


How death came to dinner

On August 24, 2013 we launched Death Over Dinner and in a single night we tracked over 500 dinners in 20 countries. Since then there have been over a hundred thousand #deathdinners around the globe.

This adventure began when we learned that 75% of Americans want to die at home, yet only 25% of them do. When we learned that how we end our lives is the most important and costly conversation America is not having. And when we realized that a conversation among loved ones, friends, and even strangers could begin to change these numbers, and bring the conversation about death back into mainstream culture.

It all started with a University of Washington graduate course called Let’s Have Dinner and Talk About Death, taught by Michael Hebb and Scott Macklin, which quickly grew into a beautiful website designed by Seattle agency Civilization with content developed by Angel Grant. Our platform has now grown into a global project with an Australian Edition, a Jewish Edition, and even a Doctors and Nurses Edition currently being designed and built. We are thrilled to announce that we are now part of the RoundGlass family of initiatives, which will allow us to expand this project to millions of individuals and dinner tables.

This project was created as a gift, an invitation and a simple set of tools to help families and friends address the basic human fact that we are all, at some point, going to die. We suffer more when we don’t communicate our wishes, we suffer less when we know how to honor the wishes of our loved ones. As we build greater comfort and literacy around this important topic, every single one of us wins.

You might ask: Why would I have this conversation over dinner?

The dinner table is the most forgiving place for difficult conversation. The ritual of breaking bread creates warmth and connection, and puts us in touch with our humanity. It offers an environment that is more suitable than the usual places we discuss end of life.

So we raise a generous glass to you and your loved ones and humbly submit version 2.0 of Death Over Dinner!


Photos by Amanda Ringstad


We’re collaborating with everyone from oncologists, gravestone designers, palliative care experts, authors, curators, health care CEOs and artists to spark a powerful movement around facing death and planning for end of life. We’re putting out a call to action for people to start a conversation with their friends or family about death- and we’re giving people to tools to make it easier, more meaningful, and even fun.

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  • Doing What it Takes to Cope With Grief

    When Amy Green’s young son was diagnosed with a rare brain tumor, she made up a bedtime story for his siblings to teach them about cancer. What resulted was a video game, ‘That Dragon, Cancer,’ which takes players on a journey they can’t win. In this beautiful talk about coping with loss, Green brings joy and play to tragedy. ‘We made a game that’s hard to play,’ she says, ‘because the hardest moments of our lives change us more than any goal we could ever accomplish.’

  • Find a Place of Rest

    Frank Ostaseski, Founder, Metta Institute, author The Five Invitations, shares a story from caregiving that can benefit all of us.

  • The Coffin Club

    In this fantastically light and fun video, we see a group of older people in New Zealand who were fed-up after attending so many funerals that rarely reflected the vibrant lives of friends and family they were meant to honor, so they created what they call a Coffin Club.

  • The Only Reason We’re Alive

    Spoken word poet In-Q, accompanied by gorgeous animation, expresses the bittersweetness of life, aging, and death in the context of love like no other.

  • The Intersection of Living and Dying

    During the past 20 years few people have changed the conversation about the intersection of life and death more than Mitch Albom. ‘Tuesdays With Morrie’ author talks with Jane Pauley on a wide-ranging chat about a life well-lived, beginning with a time when he sat down for weekly conversations with a professor from his college days who was facing his terminal diagnosis.

  • Compassion and the True Meaning of Empathy

    Joan Halifax works with people at the last stage of life (in hospice and on death row). She shares what she’s learned about compassion in the face of death and dying, and a deep insight into the nature of empathy.

  • 59 Year Old Chimp Says Goodbye to Long Lost Friend

    In this short video, we see the potency of heart to heart connection and feel the undeniable importance in getting to share a goodbye.

  • Culture of Dying

    Stephen Jenkinson explains how our culture taught us to deny death and sadness. He thought-provokingly tells how to turn this around. Please listen from 8:30 – 25:00.

  • A New Approach To Dementia Care

    Larissa MacFarquhar spends time at a community built for Seniors with Alzheimer’s where caretakers are using reminiscence therapy to ease feelings of panic, rage, and misery.

  • 2. Aging Brains Stay Sharper With Daily Housework and Exercise

    Even something as simple as chopping up food on a regular basis can be enough exercise to help protect older people from showing signs of dementia, a new study suggests.

  • What Are You Doing Over There?

    The art of the little white lie gone awry while caring for his Grandma.

  • Saying I Love You

    A doctor who studies memory loss is confronted with her own father’s memory loss.

  • Dementia Matters

    Episode Feb 26, 2019: How Brain Autopsies Are Helping Further Dementia Research

  • Alzheimer’s Podcast

    Episode 52: A Good Death? Learn Tips to help you through a difficult time Episode 53: What Are the Thing No One Tells you about death Episode 54: Who are the end of life specialist and how can they help?

  • Alzheimer’s Speaks

  • Make End of Life More Humane

    Dr. Atul Gawande began researching hospice and end-of-life care options because he says he didn’t know how to broach the subject of death with his terminally ill patients. ‘Our system of medical care has successfully created a multi-trillion-dollar system for dispensing lottery tickets — the lottery ticket that you could get this longer life,’ he says. But he says it has not prepared people for the likelihood that physicians aren’t good at preparing patients whose lives will not be prolonged by medical treatment. ‘So we’ve failed to meet the other needs people have, other than just prolonging life.’

  • What Doesn’t Kill You

    Tig Notaro was diagnosed with cancer. A week later she went on stage in Los Angeles about her string of misfortunes. Listen from 3:04 – 15:35.

  • Just Show Up

    Sheryl Sandberg gives a vulnerable interview about what life looked like after her husband died suddenly.

  • The Bitter End

    ‘We turn to doctors to save our lives — to heal us, repair us, and keep us healthy. But when it comes to the critical question of what to do when death is at hand, there seems to be a gap between what we want doctors to do for us, and what doctors want done for themselves.’

  • Mortician Explores Many Paths For Sacred Transition Of Death

    Mortician Caitlin Doughty has traveled around the world exploring the ways other cultures approach death and talks about many of them as well as the differences in America.

  • A Nurse Reflects on the Privilege of Caring for Dying Patients

    Brown says that being with people who are dying is a profound experience. ‘When you’re with people who die… and being in their homes and seeing their families… it makes me realize this is why we’re here; this is what we do; this is what we give to each other.’

  • Last Day, from Charlotte’s Web

    Charlotte faces her death and consoles WIlbur with elegant practicality. EB White uses this beautiful story to illustrate the power of relationship along with the cycle of life and death.

  • Sam Harris Podcast: Lessons from Death

    In this episode of the Making Sense podcast, Sam Harris speaks with Frank Ostaseski about death and dying—and about how the awareness of death can improve our lives in each moment.



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